Video-Games = The New Parent?

The next time I hear a parent complain about how their child never listens to them or how they can’t tell them no, I’m going to point out an AI does their job better.

Yes that’s right, our generation is being raised by video games instead of television. At least with video games these kids stand a better chance of tackling the world then those of the generation before who were cooped up and sent to their room to stay out of the way and watch cartoons. Many games today are so realistic, it not only provides an escape, it allows you to learn useful things, such as how to use your imagination and survive.

From creating your own garden and learning how cycles work, to building a crazy fort and learning about physics (or that particular games version of physics), math and science of varying levels are being used in ‘real life’ situations where the information will stick far better then in a classroom.

Well I can’t get my kid to do anything!! So, you’re telling me your kid plays in a simulator dreaming about life all day, and you can’t get him to do anything?? Yes, I know some of the games that include racing and any first person shooter are off the table for real life, but when your kid is playing Minecraft for days on end, I feel for the little guy. I love Minecraft, I play it when I can’t build the thing I want in real life. Kids are creative, kids want to build and do things, but they are often met with 1 no materials in this day and age, and 2 a slew of inconsistent rules which makes them not even want to try. Parents, if you say no once, keep it that way, or explain why it’s a yes now. Same for saying yes. Stop buying them things hoping to win their affection and take them out to play. That’s all we wanted – our parents to play with us, not to shove us away in hopes we’d entertain ourselves, and to know we were safe, and a safe world includes rules.

But you’re in a virtual environment where anything is possible! How can this be better than me?! I hate to break it to ya, but all these games have rules, meaning your child gets told no everyday without throwing a tantrum – granted, there are cheat codes, but if you want to stay in the ranks with your buddies, you’ll have to keep those off, or get really good at programming and go in and change the game itself, which would be a feat worth congratulating, but as most games now have a cloud they sync up with, many in real-time, makes this near nigh to impossible. So not only are there rules, but there is incentive to follow them.

If our generation isn’t taught the rules, how are they expected to follow them? A game will teach you the rules, and it’s up to you to follow them. The real world nor the game world doesn’t take ‘I didn’t know’ as an answer. My question for you is, are you going to let an AI set the rules, or you?

Snowflakes

You know the type – Wandering around all pretty, light and flaky. If you put any heat on them, they melt. Well I’m going to touch on a topic many find to be touchy, but after having to work, communicate and try to befriend these little buggers, (it’s not just limited to the millennial generation I’ll add) I’m here to point out the root of the problem – Parents that think their children do no wrong.

Yes, scream, wail, tell me little Johnny is perfect, prove that you’re the reason they can’t be told ‘NO’. Let them continue to run all over you, while you pick up their socks, do their bidding, make them each separate meals cause YOU (That’s right!) YOU let it happen. You had the authority, and for some reason, deemed yourself not worthy, or didn’t have the guts and balls to stand up against these mini humans.

Little boys flipping up skirts isn’t cute, when it’s 20 years later and he’s flipping it up. That’s a personal space violation, that could land your ‘perfect child’ in jail. Little girls who think they are the queen bee cause their daddy/mommy told them so, pampered with anything they desire, will bully all those around them, and will one day lead a very lonely life, with makeup-laden cheerleaders instead of friends. Little boys who have everything done for them will expect their girlfriends to pickup after them, and you will see a trend of girls leaving your ‘perfect child’. Little girls who get their way now, treat their boyfriends like SHIT later, whipped puppies are no fun to have as a partner and she’ll never be happy.

You wonder why they can’t hold down a job, and wonder if they’ll ever be able to support you, wonder why your wallet is always empty, or why they don’t listen to you, and it all stems back to you not saying ‘NO’. Humans push the envelope of everything around, seeing what they can get from life, and little people are no exception. You’re the first line of authority in their first steps into this world, and your responsibility is to protect and love them. You’re not protecting them by not teaching them how to cook, clean, look after themselves, or keep a house! You’re doing a terrible disservice, putting a limit on what they can achieve by making them entitled, disrespectful and eventually (unless they realize you’ve kept them in a distortion bubble) alone.

It’s never too late to try. They’re not your slaves, but they are full of energy and really just want the love and respect of the people they look up to. BE THAT PERSON. You must teach them how to respect, and I say it starts by respecting them. Because if you respect them as other little humans, not little terrors that are taking up your money and time, and teach them all the cool things you know, they will learn respect from you. And who knows, you might even get a friend out of the deal. My fondest memories was following my dad around as he took care of the household day to day needs. (Sorry mom, wasn’t a big fan of sewing back then :P, but we did photo editing, Indiana Jones and Age of Empires together, thanks for the strategies 😉 )

I love you mom and dad, I know you’re not perfect, but at least if the world ends, I know I’ll survive.

“Snowflakes”